Alexis N. Fernandez & Associates

Betrayal. A breach of trust. Fear. What you thought was true—counted on to be true—was not.

Patrick J. Carnes

❝ Your life has just been turned upside down. You pick up your partner’s phone to reveal a provocative message from their illicit love affair. Your mind is racing, feeling ashamed and alone, detached from reality; as if the rug has been pulled out from under you. You question whether your relationship has been a lie. You question yourself, your ability to trust in anyone again. You feel like you’ve been thrown into the ocean without knowing how to swim.

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Betrayal can be profoundly debilitating. In the aftermath, you may feel as though your life has shattered into countless pieces, leaving you engulfed in disillusion, and feeling frozen, numb, or in an altered state of being.

Betrayal trauma causes a fracture in the foundation of a relationship and the foundation of the self — and in that, healing involves processing the complexities of your pain and letting go. Our goal is to guide you in creating the space to rebuild your inner power and work to accept love back into your heart.

Turning pain into power

Acknowledging trauma caused by betrayal can empower you to take charge of your healing, requiring you to turn inward and discover how to make meaning of out suffering. We will support you through processing the wounds, and using such adversity as an opportunity to pursue personal growth. Through this untethering, we will help you find your path in understanding the dynamics of a healthy relationship, navigate how to learn from and cope with the possibility of future harm, and learn that such brokenness can lead to wisdom and deeper meaning in your life.

Our goal is to empower you in reclaiming your new life story, valuing both the highs and lows of your journey.

we're here for you

Rewrite your story of resilience by exchanging wounds for confidence, love, and compassion.

We offer betrayal trauma therapy for individuals located in California, including cities such as Los Angeles, San Diego, Orange County, and San Francisco, as well as New York City.

Alexis is a member of the American Association for Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT) and trained by and affiliated with the Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS).