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Alexis N. Fernandez & Associates

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  • Mind Building
  • Couples Therapy
  • Sex Therapy
  • Sex & Love Addiction
  • Betrayal Trauma
  • Addictions
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Embrace Your Sexuality • Elevate Your Wellness

We affirm the fundamental value of sexuality as an inherent and essential dimension of being human.

Sexual health is an important part of our physical and emotional well-being. The journey to understanding our own bodies and experiences of pleasure can be intricate, sometimes fraught with challenges and uncertainties. For many, it's a path marked by questions, anxieties, and complexities. However, it is within this terrain that we aim to carve out a welcoming, open, and safe space for you to discuss your sexual challenges, guiding you to enhanced sensuality, sexual awareness, communication, desire, and pleasure.

Our mission is clear:

To facilitate growth and transformation, and maximize your potential for sexual satisfaction, pleasure, and vitality.


With guidance and support, we empower you with knowledge, confidence, and the tools to navigate the intricacies of your sexual life.

What is sex therapy?

Our approach to sex therapy is rooted in the idea that your unique sexual, gender, and relationship expression is special, and that whatever your experience is - is normal. Sex therapy provides a space where individuals and couples can openly and honestly explore concerns and curiosities, and voice needs and wants in a safe environment.


We welcome you to explore, reflect, and address concerns related to sexual functioning, expression, intimacy, and communication about sex.

Why work with a sex therapist?

Sexuality is a complex and important part of life, and you may not have a comfortable space to explore your feelings or questions about this. Your thoughts, feelings, and experiences regarding sex are treated confidentially, ensuring that you can share and process your experiences without fear of judgment.


Sex therapy with us is inclusive, welcoming individuals from all walks of life and embracing the rich diversity of human sexuality. Regardless of age, sexual orientation, or gender identity - we recognize that every person's sexual journey and experiences are unique.


Alexis is a Certified Sex Therapist (CST) and is a Certified Sex Addictions Therapist (CSAT)  from the International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals (IITAP). Alexis is also a member of the American Association for Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT).

Sex embodies and integrates the physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual aspects of all partners.

Common topics addressed with sex therapy ⁃

Vulvodynia

Vulvodynia

Vulvodynia

Vulvodynia is a condition that affects the vulva, or the external genital organs of the female anatomy. Symptoms of this sexual dysfunction include pain, burning, stinging, irritation or a sharp pain in the vulva. Vulvodynia may be constant, intermittent, or only occurring upon touch. Furthermore, symptoms are not always localized to one place but could affect the entire vulva. Vulvodynia may make it difficult for a woman to participate in many recreational activities, such as bike riding, to sit for prolonged periods of time, and to engage in sexual activity. Although vulvodynia is mostly diagnosed as a psychosomatic condition, there are some physical causes for the dysfunction. Possible causes include allergy or sensitivity, genetic predispositions to inflammation, yeast infections, human paploma virus (HPV), and injury.

Vaginismus

Vulvodynia

Vulvodynia

Vaginismus is the involuntary spasms of the muscles of the outer third of the vagina. These vaginal spasms interfere with sexual intercourse. There are two types of vaginismus, situational and general. Situational vaginismus is limited to certain types of stimulation, situations or partners, while generalized vaginismus occurs regardless of the types of stimulation, situations, or partners. Vaginismus can be either lifelong or acquired. Lifelong vaginismus is diagnosed in a person who has never been able to have penetrative sex without pain. Acquired vaginismus is diagnosed in a person who loses the ability to experience penetration without pain.

Anorgasmia

Vulvodynia

Premature Ejaculation

Anorgasmia is the persistent delay in or absence of an orgasm during sexual activity. This sexual dysfunction disrupts the third stage of the sexual response cycle, the orgasm phase. Although the term anorgasmia includes the medical inability to reach orgasm, the great majority of anorgasmia cases are caused by psychological, social, cultural, or relationship variables and are, therefore, best treated in therapy.

Premature Ejaculation

Premature Ejaculation

Premature Ejaculation

Premature ejaculation is one of the most common sexual dysfunctions among males. It occurs in the third stage of the sexual response cycle, the orgasmic phase. Ejaculation of semen occurs quicker than expected, usually due to anxiety. A diagnosing clinician should assess for factors affecting duration of excitement phase in the sexual response cycle such as age, novelty of sexual partner or situation and frequency of sexual activity. When premature ejaculation causes interpersonal difficulty or distress for the individual, and is not the result of substance use, it can be diagnosed therapeutically. 

Erectile Dysfunction

Premature Ejaculation

Erectile Dysfunction

Erectile dysfunction occurs during the first phase of the sexual response cycle, the excitement phase, and is the inability to achieve or sustain an erection effective for intercourse. When this disturbance causes significant distress to the individual or interpersonal difficulty, it can be diagnosed as a psychological condition. Erectile dysfunction is not the result of physiological impairments, substance use, or an already identified medical condition. Many causes of erectile dysfunction, however, are mental and emotional. Therefore, sex therapy can be extremely helpful in resolving them.

other topics include

Premature Ejaculation

Erectile Dysfunction

processing sexual violence  •  gender dynamics, identity, and exploration  •  STI diagnosis  •  jealousy  •  infidelity  •  sexuality and hormones  •  developing a positive personal relationship with sexual identity  •  desire discrepancy  •  sexual pleasure and aging  •  cultural and religious factors  •  mindfulness and sensuality  •  enhancing pleasure  •  diversity in sexual expression  •  kinks  •  polyamory  •  LGBTQIA2S+  •  pelvic floor health  •  compulsive masturbation  •  conflict regarding sexual interests/behaviors  •  sexual dysfunction due to chronic illness 

Please note that sexual activity is NEVER a part of your actual therapy session. In no instances will a Certified Sex Therapist ever engage in any sexual activity with a patient, whether in the office or any location.

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Accepting new clients in California and New York

Contact us to schedule a free consultation to discuss your needs and wishes, and to give you an idea of what it would be like for us to work together.


We work with individuals located in California, including cities such as Los Angeles, San Diego, Orange County, and San Francisco, as well as New York City.

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Alexis N. Fernandez & Associates

Online Marriage Counselor and Sex Therapist serving clients in Orange County and San Diego, CA and New York, NY. Specializing in Couples Therapy and Sex Therapy.

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